Thursday, June 01, 2006

I am Not a Prude

I am not against sex, okay? I don't hate the naked human body. I don't hate men. I don't hate relationships. I don't hate marriage.

What I hate is how people cheapen those gifts from God. What I hate is how sex, in our culture, is treated so casually, so jokingly. Sex is used as a tool or a weapon...it is neither. The human body is beautiful because it is God's creation. The naked form is not meant to be used to fuel lust and immature fantasies. It was not created so that we would drool over the opposite sex, constantly compare, or to encourage us to sleep around. Yes, we are meant to marvel at the beauty we see in the opposite sex, but not in the way our society encourages us to. Men are to "rejoice in the wife of their youth", they are to find joy in her beauty...even her physical beauty...got that...their wives! Similarly, women are supposed to marvel at their husbands, to find them handsome and attractive...their husbands! Their is a certain amount of intimacy and marveling that should be reserved for marriage. That's why sex was created for marriage! Sex was created to be fun and exctiting and intimate and wonderful. God wanted us to enjoy our spouses, to enjoy being near them, to allow us to experience oneness with each other, and to enjoy the process of making babies. Our society has marred sex beyond recognition, though. Sex for sex's sake will never satisfy an aching heart. It will never make you happy. It will never meet your need for intimacy. It will never be enough. It will only leave you broken and starving...starving for more...more intimacy...more love...

So, what about having all this in the context of a "serious relationship"? NO. It saddens me that young women have been led to believe that if you've been dating a guy "long enough" it's okay to have sex with him. I hate the, "we plan on getting married anyway". What's the point then? If you're going to get married, then you (are supposed to) have the rest of your lives. What's the rush?

Why cheat yourself and your future spouse? I mean, think about it. If you sleep around, then when you do get married, the memories of those past partners will be in your marriage bed with you. Your spouse will know that you are able to compare him/her to all your past partners, creating anxiety. Your spouse will have to know that there are x number of other people who know what the love of his/her life looks like naked, how the love of his/her life is in bed...Your spouse will have to share you in a way they were never supposed to...against their will...because of your will...You are a gift...you're supposed to be a gift to your spouse...why would you cheat them out of that by giving yourself to countless other people first...What does that say about your love for them?

I love marriage. That's why I think so highly of all the blessings that go along with it.

I don't know that this went in any particular direction, but...I feel my rant has ended...

2 comments:

Heart of Steel said...

Good stuff...Our bodies are temples of the LORD.

sAuRaBh sHeKhAr said...

sounds somesense to me tooo